Sex

The Challenge of Sex

       The classic challenge with sex in marriage is the difference in gender expression.  Of the five areas of intimacy (the spiritual, the physical, the intellectual, the emotional, and the social) the woman’s expression focuses on emotional bonding and when this is met it progresses to physical response.  The man’s expression focuses on physical attraction and response and when this is expressed there is a progression to emotional bonding. 

       The wife wants her husband to meet her throughout the day with lots of affection, affirming words, and lasting touch; whereas he wants her to meet him in the bedroom with little on, few words, and satisfying sex. 

       These differences can either be challenged or celebrated.  If they are challenged and we demand sex on our terms, sex actually will cause isolation.  If the differences are celebrated and we learn what our partner needs and enjoys, the relationship can move to the closest possible intimacy.

       If we want sex to be hot in the bedroom, we should start warming it up in the kitchen.  Sex does not begin at 10:00 p.m. with a romp in the sack; it begins at 7:00 a.m. with sharing a cup of coffee and small talk.  Great sex starts with small considerations.

       Questions To Ask:

How much am I seeking to understand my partner’s view of sex?

What attention am I giving my partner throughout our day?

Have questions about sex: Sex Quest

Ideas to help your sex life: Incredible Intimate Weekend

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