Cave Up or Cave In
Many people think that they have just have two options when it comes to discussing controversial issues. The first option is to cave up. This takes place by not expressing true feelings or thoughts. This can take the form of not talking about the issue at hand. It is just going into the cave hoping the storm will pass. It is conflict avoidance.
The second option that is considered as the alternative is to cave in. This takes place by just giving others what they want. It is not standing up for personal desires and letting others have their way. It is conflict submission.
A third option is available and that is to tunnel through. A tunnel unlike a cave has two ends and constructively works through obstacles. It takes work but good communication that seeks an end resolve gets to the other side of difficult issues. It benefits both parties. It is conflict resolution.
Tunneling through issues, although difficult, moves beyond barriers and allows for forward movement in relationships.
Thoughts to Ponder:
How do I handle conflict in relationship?
What tough issue have I tunneled through recently?
Scripture:
(Ecclesiastes 9:9) Life is short, and you love your wife, so enjoy being with her. This is what you are supposed to do as you struggle through life on this earth. CEV